Divorce can impact every aspect of your life. Some are able to navigate through it without losing control, while others get stuck in the negativity.
A study conducted by the University of Arizona says that self-compassion is crucial during the divorce process as it can promote resilience and positive outcomes in the face of divorce.
The study, published in the journal of Psychological Science, showed that people with high levels of self-compassion at the start of their marriage breaking up recovered faster and were doing better after a period of months. ‘It’s not easy to say, “Be less anxious.” You can’t change your personality so easily,’ says study author and psychologist David Sbarra. ‘We also know that women do better than men. But you can’t change your sex. What you can change is your stance with respect to your experience. Understanding your loss as part of the larger human experience helps assuage feelings of isolation,’ he adds.
Also, mindfulness – nothing jealousy or anger without judgement or rumination – lets you turn your mind to life in the present without getting stuck in the past.