1. Exercise but not to lose weight, or even to feel healthy (though these are desirable side effects). Do it because it will make your body stronger. When your body feels strong, you will feel more powerful. And when you feel powerful, it really is rather difficult not to feel sexy as hell.
2. Realise that there is so much more to life than worrying about cellulite/less-than-perfectly-toned arms/your muffin top. Focus on what makes you feel good, not what makes you feel thin.
3. Ditch the scale. Measuring yourself against your ‘ideal weight’ – which presumably you have not yet ‘achieved’ – is just plain masochism. Every time you see your scale lurking reproachfully in the bath-room corner, it is simply a reminder that you are not living up to an absurd ideal. Who needs it? Your scale cannot deliver self-worth, only you can.
4. Do it for your kids. You want your kids to love their bodies, right? Then you’ve got to lead by example. Children are extremely sensitive to any messages we give out, consciously or otherwise, so you’d best stop criticising and start praising your physique.
5. Be your body’s BFF. Who would you rather spend time with: someone kind, understanding and compassionate, who loves you just the way you are; or a total bitch who constantly points out your ‘flaws’?
6. Make eating a form of self-love. Choose food that nourishes your body. Sure, have that slice of black forest cake – heck, have three, who cares? – but make sure your body’s getting enough of what it needs as well (lean meat, loads of veg, some fruit and grains – you know the drill). Shifting your focus will help shift your relationship with food.
Ask any man – sexiness is more about confidence and inner beauty than it is about ripple-free thighs. The more at ease you are with yourself, the more at ease you will make others feel, and that is deeply attractive.